She, in fact, is the most truthful women out of the five contestants.
Not that she is particularly pleasant or that her personality is particularly amiable, but she is speaking the truth, deep in her mind - and I guess this mind-set is sort-of engraved onto the mind of fellow female citizens of Hong Kong.
Your look matters, you age matters
She mentioned in episode three that Mei-ling has introduced to her an old man - CK Tsang in the show - who purportedly is a community college lecturer[1]. She obviously judged CK in his look and that his age is old - without thinking that she is already approaching 40. Looking at it on the another scale, she is only a few years approaching menopause, which, otherwise could be termed as "physiological infertility".
It is the nature of men to date young women. Though feminists may disagree on this, the nature of men to date young women is likely an evolution-derived characteristic.
The simple reason behind dating a young woman is for her fertility. Women ovulate every month, and often till the age of 50. It is very important to know that all the ova inside a woman's ovary are already made by the time that she was born, and these ova, unsurprisingly would be worse off when used 40 years after it was made, than, for example, some 20 years after it was made. This is demonstrated by the vast increase in genetic defects such as Down syndrome for women past the age of 35.
As to giving birth to a child, the answer is: 20 years old physiologically, 30 years old psychologically and 40 years old economically.
And then if you loved me, you should accept me "as-is"
Not that it is any wrong - but one has to get others to love him/her before one can say this. And as Mei-ling pointed out aptly, in terms of matchmaking, no matter how good you are, there ought to be somebody out there who are as good as you, yet prettier than you - and if you don't care about your outlook, you won't even get the chance in the first place.
Love is a bilateral business[2]. Anything bilateral involves compromises - that is, unsurprisingly, changes that one has to make in order to keep the relationship going. I am not a christian, but the biblical teaching on love is really on the point:
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things[3].There is probably no such somebody out there who do not need to change to behave as described above... Not me, after all[4].
More to come.
[1] And according to some facebook members who confirmed his teaching career
[2] Readers who can read chinese is directed to RC's blog here
[3] Emphasis mine.
[4] I love my girlfriend dearly, and not that I haven't changed. I think I changed for the better of our relationship.
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